National Single Parent Resource Center

Coach Judy’s 10 Practical Tips for Divorce and Single Parenting

  1. Keep your wits in check: “Get the Facts Before Reacting”
  2. Check out books at the library, search the internet, and or view video’s on divorce that include information on “best interest of the children.”
  3. Interview several attorneys whose specialty is divorce. Choose one that looks to stay out of court, doesn’t attack the other side when speaking or in the legal papers.
  4. Have someone review the legal documents before signing. The legal terminology may not always mean what you think, especially when entering the court system.
  5. Meet with professionals from an accountant to a therapist to find the best solutions for being fair and acting in the “Best Interest of the Children.”
  6. Consider compromising rather than fighting and “Keep the Money in Your Pocket.”
  7. Children are created by two people. They risk being abused and used as pawns when parents are angry. Avoid using your children to pass massages. When calling one another use “I Messages.”
  8. Redirect anger into positive energy: Consider exercising, meditation, working on a craft project, or become involved in a organization that helps others.
  9. Join a support group: Look in newspapers, or for an on line group.
  10. Remember the R & R’s of Parenting: Your Responsibilities & the Rights of Children